Is he a Gumball Guy?
You're not crazy. You're not too much. He pulls away right when it's good. Runs hot, then cold. He's not a mysterious prize β he's a scared guy asking for the gumball of your attention, without ever offering real love. Once you can name the pattern, you can stop giving it to him.
Gumball Love is a transactional relationship.
He puts in the quarter. You give the gumball.
His Quarter
The prompt he drops β a text, a compliment, a flicker of attention β engineered to get a specific flavor of response from you.
Your Gumball
The flavor of attention you hand back. Validation. Reassurance. Hope. The sugar-high he needs to feel okay β without ever offering real intimacy in return.
"You give him dopamine. He gives you hope.
Neither of you gets love."
There are 8 flavors of attention he's asking for β and the ones you've been giving away.
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